A relationship that isn’t working is one of the most painful of life’s experiences. Not just painful, sometimes it’s downright exasperating taking a lot more of our thought life than we like to admit. I’ve seen many couples stay in a painful relationship because they don’t have any idea how to get out of it.

Nowadays there are many resources. One of my professional success stories is working with couples who are struggling. They may not want to divorce but they see no other way to stop the madness. I wrote an ebook that can help you decide if reconciling is a good idea or not. Reconciling is the best way to avoid the pain of divorce but it isn’t right for everyone. Reconciling takes work and under most circumstances, it’s worth every bit of it.

And here’s another resource. Written by a former divorce attorney.

How to Heal a Broken Relationship

by Bill Ferguson

“…and if necessary part as friends…” so reads the tagline. Bill Ferguson is a former divorce attorney. He has watched, counseled and coaxed thousands upon thousands of couples as they have made their way through the conflicts surrounding divorce. He points out: “Whenever you take action to come out on top, without regard to the other person, you create opposition against yourself.” From that premise he writes his book.

The author provides examples of relationship dynamics that couples struggle with, and ends each chapter with action steps. The steps start with words like: notice, find, be willing, and do. The man who sold me the book said he and his wife were helped by doing the exercises together as a preventative measure. Couldn’t hurt!